Devastated I couldn't save her

[kshansen]

What more can I say but sorry for your loss!

 

[HarleyHappy]

Dave, so sorry to hear about your loss. My sincere condolences .

 

[funwithfuel]

Sorry for your loss, that's terrible. At least you were there for her and she wasn't alone.

 

[ps66x4]

I am sorry, take care of yourself.

 

[Deere500a]

Morning bud

 

[BC Placer gold]

Very sad to hear this Dave....Take care.

 

[PeterG]

Sorry Dave, thinking about you. Peter.

 

[micmut]

Very sorry to hear this Dave! My condolences. Prayers are with you! :Mike

 

[ianjoub]

Very sorry to hear this Dave. I am sure you did all you could. It takes time, but remember all the best stuff.

 

[Tyler d4c]

Sorry to hear Dave.

 

[Welder Dave]

Damn this is hard!

 

[KSSS]

Dave, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Try to keep yourself occupied. Don't overlook counseling and getting some meds if needed, it helps. We are all here for you brother.

 

[Simon C]

Try to take one day at a time, remember the good times and you did your best to try to save her. There is no time limit to grieve, and time and unforseen occurences happen to good people as well.
Stay busy and reach out if your feeling like you need to hear something encouraging.
Am certain it feels like a hole in the middle of yor chest, but it will slowly subside with time.
Will be thinking about you.
Simon C

 

[materthegreater]

This is sad to hear, sorry for your loss Dave.

 

[AusDave]

So sorry to hear of your loss Dave

I lost my partner of over 30 years just over two years ago. She was my partner in every aspect of my life and after 3 years fighting cancer she left this life. It was the hardest life experience I’ve ever had and I still miss her dearly.

In an effort to fill the void in my life I did seek out the company of friends and after some research, online dating. I have met some nice women and am currently exploring life with one now. It’s not like the love I had but it’s quite nice and certainly gives purpose to my life.

I think it’s important to keep moving forward in whatever way works for you. Otherwise depression can start to take over your life. Follow the interests that keep your mind engaged and a bit distracted from your loss and keep in touch with your friends and family.
It’s lovely to hear heartfelt comments on this forum, you’re obviously a much loved person on here. So look after yourself and stay connected with us on HEF.

 

[Welder Dave]

I feel like I have a lot of friends here and that really helps. My first priority is to take care of the stray kitty we took in. He kept showing up on our porch and we fed him. We figure he chose us. He's very cuddly. Debi loved all animals!

 

[Willie B]

My partner of 22 years passed away totally unexpected this morning. She fell yesterday morning and was OK. She had a softer fall this morning and was OK at first. We tried to get her up but it she didn't have enough energy so was just sitting up on the floor. Then she fell over and I put a pillow under her head. She was talking to me and all of a sudden she wasn't responsive. After about a minute of trying to get a response I called 911. They told me to do chest compressions which I did for about 8-10 minutes until the ambulance arrived. They tried for about 30 minutes but she was already gone. They said I did everything I could but I feel like I should have done more.

She had surgery to remove skin after losing weight on June 17. She had drains in she hoped to have removed this week. She was so excited to have a flat stomach again! I called her my secret weapon because she was so kind to everyone and helped anyone she could. She looked after me when I had cancer and came to see me everyday for months. I tried really hard to look after her the same way and I couldn't save her. I know she's looking over me. She was always my angel. She was only 65.

Wow! I'm so sorry to hear this.

 

[Welder Dave]

Kind of long post. I probably got some spelling wrong.

The ME called today and informed me that she had coronary artery disease which I didn't know. I knew it was hard to get blood samples from her. She had a deep vein thrombosus that can be common after surgery but that isn't what took her life. Her veins were 60-80% blocked and she developed a pulmonary endima (blood clot) in her left leg that wasn't tested with ultrasound on Sat. Only her right leg that had turned red on Friday but cleared up was given an ultrasound. The pulmonary endima basically blocked both beings to her lungs which put her heart in distress. The fall may have contributed but there wasn't much I could have done differently. Her sister summed it up like she was a ticking time bomb and it could have happened at any time. In a way I'm glad it happened at home and not later when she was back driving or out and about. Just really tragic!

I'm so grateful to her sister's helping with everything. There's a ton of things to do when someone dies. She didn't want a religious funeral. She wanted to be cremated and have a big party in her honour. We're thinking we should have a celebration of life on her birthday Sep. 16. Also looking at getting a bench with her name on or even a plaque to put up at her work. She worked her entire career in Healthcare and many years at an extended care facility. She was the administrative assistant for several years before going to a little less hours. She didn't have an official job description. She was able to do just about anything when needed. Before that she worked a Veterans center as the front receptionist for many years. She was the kindest most gentle person on the planet and I don't think anyone would have a bad word to say about her. Everybody loved her. She is dearly missed. Thanks for all the condolences. They are greatly appreciated.