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Devastated I couldn't save her

KSSS

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Dave, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Try to keep yourself occupied. Don't overlook counseling and getting some meds if needed, it helps. We are all here for you brother.
 

Simon C

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Try to take one day at a time, remember the good times and you did your best to try to save her. There is no time limit to grieve, and time and unforseen occurences happen to good people as well.
Stay busy and reach out if your feeling like you need to hear something encouraging.
Am certain it feels like a hole in the middle of yor chest, but it will slowly subside with time.
Will be thinking about you.
Simon C
 

AusDave

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Australia
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Self employed
So sorry to hear of your loss Dave

I lost my partner of over 30 years just over two years ago. She was my partner in every aspect of my life and after 3 years fighting cancer she left this life. It was the hardest life experience I’ve ever had and I still miss her dearly.

In an effort to fill the void in my life I did seek out the company of friends and after some research, online dating. I have met some nice women and am currently exploring life with one now. It’s not like the love I had but it’s quite nice and certainly gives purpose to my life.

I think it’s important to keep moving forward in whatever way works for you. Otherwise depression can start to take over your life. Follow the interests that keep your mind engaged and a bit distracted from your loss and keep in touch with your friends and family.
It’s lovely to hear heartfelt comments on this forum, you’re obviously a much loved person on here. So look after yourself and stay connected with us on HEF.
 

Willie B

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Mount Tabor VT
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Electrician
My partner of 22 years passed away totally unexpected this morning. She fell yesterday morning and was OK. She had a softer fall this morning and was OK at first. We tried to get her up but it she didn't have enough energy so was just sitting up on the floor. Then she fell over and I put a pillow under her head. She was talking to me and all of a sudden she wasn't responsive. After about a minute of trying to get a response I called 911. They told me to do chest compressions which I did for about 8-10 minutes until the ambulance arrived. They tried for about 30 minutes but she was already gone. They said I did everything I could but I feel like I should have done more.

She had surgery to remove skin after losing weight on June 17. She had drains in she hoped to have removed this week. She was so excited to have a flat stomach again! I called her my secret weapon because she was so kind to everyone and helped anyone she could. She looked after me when I had cancer and came to see me everyday for months. I tried really hard to look after her the same way and I couldn't save her. I know she's looking over me. She was always my angel. She was only 65.
Wow! I'm so sorry to hear this.
 
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