Devastated I couldn't save her

[Welder Dave]

I got it slightly wrong. The deep veign thrombosis is blood clot that basically stays in the leg but part of it can break off and lead to the heart and after the heart causes a pulmonary endima that blocks blood flow to the heart. The fall may or may not have caused it. It could have happened at any time. If they could have saved her after a fairly long time, then there's a good chance of brain damage from lack of oxygen. She wouldn't have wanted to live like that.

Her sisters helping me is a great help and everything is easier because Debi was very organized. We found 98% of all the information we need. We're pretty sure the bank can help with one card we couldn't find.

 

[kshansen]

Not much consolation; her life ended suddenly. My greatest fear is a lingering death. Alzheimers, Parkinsons, Stroke, anything where a person loses all dignity, deteriorates slowly over a number of years. No one mourns these people, survivors feel relief.

The mention of Parkinson's does hit close to home for me as that is what they say I have. I won't go into any more here as Dave's wife is the story here, I feel for what he is dealing with loosing her at what I feel is a early age.

 

[Welder Dave]

At least Debi didn't suffer. If they revived her after an extended period she would have likely had brain damage and wouldn't want to live like that. For lack of a better word it is good it happened when she was at home as opposed to driving or out and about. I may have said this before.

We had talked in the past about how we'd like to go out (illness wise) and the consensus was better to lose your mind than lose your ability to communicate or lack mobility. That way you don't really know if anything is wrong. I had a friend pass away due to ALS and that would be the absolute worst to live with. You're aware of everything going on and can't communicate and have limited mobility. Parkinson's would be difficult too. Michael J Fox was born in my home town, Edmonton and I think his foundation has raised the highest amount of funds for research as well as making the population more aware of the disease.

 

[Welder Dave]

I just realized it was a pulmonary embelism not an endima. Medical terms are difficult to remember.