Wheww, that was a close one. MEXICO, missouri....
Been up to Iowa to see my parents. Looking at moving them from their house (which they don't want to do), to a apartment/ assisted living place.
Dad's driving is getting bad, he's getting lost, confused. It hasn't been sudden, been coming on for a long time. Mom is still sharp, but getting worn out taking care of him. My sisters are closer to them, but the reality is, if something happens to mom, dad can't be home alone any more. Mom is planning on them going straight from their house to the graveyard. But mom doesn't drive, and she doesn't really cook anymore. So we are exploring options, I was up there 2 weeks ago, and we toured one facility, toured another one this week.
I think they are really past being able to live in the one, which is "independent" living, basically a apartment complex- you have full kitchen, laundry machines in the basement- no medical staff. The other facility has levels of care within the same building. You can start "independent"- you have a car, only one meal provided, live the rest of your time in the apartment, next level is assisted with 3 meals, help available for meds, showering, they do your laundry, nurses on site, and they also have a third level of full memory care on site, with card access, for when/ if he starts wandering around.
I would love if mom would be here to transition dad to the facility living. vs if something happens to her, he's going to be lost in a new place by himself. One of the big deals is dad still smokes. And he's never going to quit. But the place with 3 levels has nurses that smoke, and there's a spot by the dumpster with a outdoor ash tray, which pretty much seals the deal for me. He's going to love standing out in 10 degree's, but for him, that's better than not lighting up.
Also went up to waverly Iowa to get parts for the electrical swivel on the link belt 40 ton. Link belt wants $8 grand and minimum 60 days for any parts for the swivel, or a whole swivel, doesn't matter. The oem for the electric swivel is in waverly. They were super helpful and are getting us some parts.