Thanks for the replys.
I think part of the problem here is the county highway engineer does not seem to know what he is doing. In our first conversation I was told I could not do any work myself or select a contractor myself and that there work had to be done EXACTLY to their standards. Thats why I couldn't get a permit and hire it done myself, do some of it myself, ect. Believe me, I would have broke it up with a 10 pound hammer and a shovel myself before I paid all that money.
He told me one time I talked to him that he spent a whole day calling other citys and countys to see how they would handle this. That alone made me angry as it does not seem to be a complex task. He seems to want to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Its not really rocket science is it? Isn't it a routine thing in the contracting world?